What Do Women Really Want
What do women really want – a question both men and women have been asking throughout the ages. It is something I have recently been asking myself. I have also been doing some research about that very subject; online, in magazines and in discussions with members of my family and friends. I have asked that question to both men and women alike in hopes of reaching a definitive conclusion.
What did I come up with you might ask? Well….really there is no set “definitive” answer. You see we women are an interesting and unique breed. We are individuals with our own particular tastes and ideas.
I am an individual. In fact, I have always prided myself on my individuality. I’ve never wanted to be anything but myself. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t come to this conclusion overnight. As a woman I have felt the societal pressures put on me to conform to what is “in” or popular or socially acceptable. Believe you me I have had my share of bumps in the road while still striving to be myself. I’ve given in at times to those around me that would push me towards their own agendas, but at the root I have always had that intrinsic need to be uniquely me. Having reached this point, you know what I decided? That it is OK to be me, really it is!
So in getting back to the original question, I know that I can’t speak for all women on this subject. However, I have come up with some similarities among us that I will share with you now. The results are not in any particular order. Below I will list what my research has determined as the top 5 list of ideas women consider to be of importance to them:
1. Personal Growth – women want to be themselves; they want individuality. My research and my own personal experiences support this view. When allowed to be themselves, women flourish and grow. Their personalities shine through. The benefits to those around them when this happens are immeasurable. The world seems like such a better place to be in when you are free to be yourself instead of trying to pretend to be something you are not just to please others.
2. Communication – women want to share thoughts, ideas, hopes and dreams. We want to talk openly, without judgment being placed on us. We want to be listened to with earnest. Sometimes we just want to “vent”. During those times we don’t want anything to be “fixed” for us. We just have stuff to get off our chests and we want someone…anyone out there to hear what we have to say.
3. Safety & Security – we want to feel like we are safe and secure in all aspects of our lives. This includes feeling safe and secure in our homes, relationships and our overall environment. We do not want to constantly have to be “on guard” just waiting for the next bad thing to happen. This is not to say that we are not cautious and protective, that is in our nature. We just want that secure feeling that all is right in our world and that we can take a deep breath and exhale with ease.
4. Relationships – simply put…we want to love and be loved. Women are instinctively givers. We nurture and treasure the people and things around us. In return we want to be cherished and adored not only for what we do, but truly for who we are inside and out. Give us sincere affection and attention and just watch what happens in our relationships….it prospers in all aspects of our lives.
5. Fun & Entertainment – with all the pressures around us on a daily basis women want to be able to release and laugh a little. Things don’t always have to be so serious. We love being able to have fun. We want to cherish the precious moments that happen in our lives. We want to look back on memories of the past with a smile on our face. We want to look ahead to the future with gleeful anticipation. Most of all we want to enjoy life to its fullest right now with a joyful heart.
This is not intended to be an “end-all” list. To me, it is a beginning. Come up with your own list and make it as long as you want it to be. This can be turned into a family activity too. Have your spouse/partner come up with a list of their own. Let your kids do the same. Of course their lists will be titled a little different.
In summing up this article I can say that this is just one woman’s point of view. It may be a view shared by you too. You may come up with your own list. I hope that you do.
That is the true beauty of What Women Really Want…YOU GET TO DECIDE!
