The Truth About Relationships
The Truth About Relationships is that Women want love – plain and simple. Love is a basic feeling or emotion. To love is natural; it’s a part of human nature. Love is what sets us apart from the animal kingdom. I find it to be of utmost importance in my life. The kind of love described here is not necessarily romantic type love, although reading this will most likely also help that sort of relationship too. This viewpoint deals with the basis of loving relationships and how you can use the practice in all aspects of your life.
Most people, especially women, have the desire for love to enter and remain in their lives. So if love is something each of us says that we really want why is it that we have so much trouble maintaining loving relationships? The answer to that question may rest within ourselves. With a bit of self-examination we just might find a solution to the problem.
Personally I think Shakespeare had it all wrong when he said, “love thyself last”. I believe that in order to give and therefore receive love, we must first love ourselves. Easier said than done right? Well the answer is simply yes! You can love yourself. It is not egocentric or selfish. On the contrary, when you are caring and loving to yourself you become more giving to others. Before you know it you become more willing to receive love in return. Self-love is the cornerstone in creating and maintaining loving relationships in all aspects of your life.
How do we achieve this? Here is one activity to get you started. Make a list about the qualities that you like most about yourself. For example:
1. I am a patient person.
2. I am fun to be around.
3. I am a good listener.
4. I am a great friend.
5. I am a good cook.
6. I am supportive.
7. I am optimistic.
8. I am creative.
9. I am sincere.
10. I am kind.
Review your list often, and add to it as you like. The bigger the list the better it will be for you to identify what makes you worth loving.
Practice on trusted friends and family members first. Ask them what it is about you that they love. Return the favor, tell each what it is you admire or “love” about them. Compliments go a long way in my book, who doesn’t love to receive them.
As you begin to believe in yourself others will see a change too. They may make comments about your emerging persona. Good, that is an invitation that people are noticing you and want to get closer. Hence, you are beginning to build and maintain a loving relationship with that person. Soon the numbers will grow and your goal will be reached.
Stay positive and remember what Virgil states,
“Love begets Love, Love knows no rules, and this is the same for all.”
